Turning Reactions Into Curiosity

Over the course of a lifetime reactions become habitual, whether it’s fear, anger, judgement, the list goes on and on. Perhaps a certain unwanted pattern of yours always elicits a reaction of shame, or a partner’s behavior causes you to react in anger.

These learned reactions are a normal result of living in this world. They have served us all in some way or another throughout our lives. These reactions also have great lessons to teach us, because our reactions provide us with greater insight about ourselves than they do about others. In addition, when we can shift from reactions to curiosity, a whole new world opens up to us.

By moving beyond reactions and opening up to curiosity, we also open ourselves up to compassion and empathy beyond our previous capacity.
Viewing our life, our work, our relationships from a place of curiosity requires us knowing ourselves on a deep level.

Reactions to emotions and behaviors are normal and may be justified, but when we can learn to be curious about the root cause of our reactions, when we can become an observer of our thoughts, feelings, and emotions- we can live from a higher vibration and live in peace.

Perhaps the next time you find yourself reacting in judgement to a belief or action of yourself or another person, stop and look at this judgement with curiosity: What is the origin of this judgement? What is it here to teach me? Do I want it to stay or leave, and why?

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This is also how I approach coaching clients– I come from a place of curiosity. I truly want to know your history, your eating or body image concerns, and provide insight and guidance into how you can be the best version of yourself.

I do not view coaching clients as a problem to be solved, and I am not their “fixer”. I can be utilized as a guide, a teacher, a mentor, a partner, a teammate, a friend. It is my job to empower you to utilize the gifts that are unique to you and only you. Together, through the power of curiosity, we can peel back the layers of your unwanted behaviors around food, movement, body image, and more, to heal.

What are some reactions that you can begin to be curious about? I’d love your thoughts on this!

The light in me honors the light in you.

Cultivating Intuitive Movement

It’s easy to talk about how we should always push to reach out goals. The messaging is made to seem simple, and also to imply those that aren’t currently training for a race or competition are lazy and unworthy.

Society’s messaging is always pushing us to be more- at home, at work, in our relationships, our health- always asking for more of us. Until we have nothing left to give. The fitness industry is no exception.

With quotes like the above, it makes sense why people feel so much guilt for missing one workout, for becoming injured, for making a “bad” food choice.

Can we stop dressing up shame and calling it motivation? We’re only causing more harm when we do so.

Studies have shown that when individuals exercise as a form of punishment, they are more likely to become injured and overall their workouts aren’t as effective as those who exercise intuitively- those who exercise because their body is asking for movement, and they provide their body with the movement that makes them happy.

Spouting 100% happiness is unattainable and unreal. We can’t be expected to live in a world of “good vibes only”, and frankly who would want to? I honor my joy because I’ve experienced sorrow. I appreciate my body now because I spent so many years hating it.

I also don’t beat myself up for missing a workout. If my body is asking for rest, I will honor that request.

Building a relationship with our body is just like any other relationship- we may assume we understand it’s communication only to discover later that was wrong. So we try again. We close our eyes, we breathe, we tune into our body’s signals. And we make our next choice accordingly. The more we practice listening to our body, the stronger this relationship will become.

What type of movement is your body asking you for? If it’s a run, go for it. If it’s a dance class, get your groove on. If it’s a nice long nap or a movie on the couch, honor and enjoy! Your body will thank you!

The light in me honors the light in you.

Mind Body Eating Coach Journey Update

I’m so thrilled to be far enough along in my education at The Institute for the Psychology of Eating that I can put this up on my site!

My education at the Institute for the Psychology of Eating has been more than I could have ever imagined. It has vastly increased my existing knowledge of disordered eating, emotional eating, binge eating, eating psychology, and has added to it information about biology, chemistry, nutrition, and more.

I will be a Health At Every Size (HAES) practitioner, meaning my goal is not weight loss, but instead to empower each individual to harness the incredible power they already hold, as they are.  Of course if weight loss is a journey that you would like to explore, let’s explore it together!

There are so many components involved in healing one’s relationship with food and with the body. Often this healing journey can seem overwhelming, and the pressure from society & the diet industry can become too much to bear. I agree, it can be too much to bear- alone. I am here to help you peel back the layers of your specific eating concerns, while also providing scientific data and solid strategies to begin to heal.

I am not a practitioner who puts someone on a meal plan and send them on their way. I truly want to get to know each client- what truly nourishes you- not only physically, but emotionally, spiritually? What gives you pleasure in life and how can I help you create a life in which you do more of that? Food is emotional and physical, which is what makes it so complex. However, the tools I am gaining give me the ability to dive deep and create personalized sessions based upon each individual’s unique needs.  I like to call it “embodiment through empowerment”.

I can’t wait to continue to share the information I am learning, and to begin to implement it with clients. I have some exciting things to offer in the near future so stay tuned! Let’s become empowered together!

The light in me honors the light in you.